My Journey into Self

Breaking Free from the Good Girl Cage

I was raised to be a good girl. The responsible one. The one who put others first, worked hard, and played by the rules.

As the eldest daughter of an eldest daughter who became head of her household at just 11, I was handed a legacy of self-sacrifice. I learned early that love was earned through doing. That being good meant prioritizing work before play. That my own wants came later — or not at all.

And so I hustled. Achieved. Over-delivered.

I built an impressive career, earned accolades, and became the go-to strategist in rooms full of power. But somewhere along the way, I lost the sound of my own voice beneath the noise of everyone else’s expectations.

Then came the moment that changed everything.

I had poured my heart and soul into my work, convinced that my loyalty, effort, and results would be rewarded. But when I was passed over for a major promotion — not once, but twice — the illusion shattered. It hit me like a gut punch:

No job was ever going to love me back.
No title, paycheck, or external validation would ever fill the void inside me.

And if the rules I had played by weren’t actually leading me to the life I wanted… what was I still doing here?

That was the beginning of the untaming.

Reclaiming My Power & My Voice

I started stripping away the layers of conditioning that had kept me small, obedient, and endlessly seeking approval. The more I let go of the “good girl” I was taught to be, the more I found something far more powerful underneath.

Because the truth is, I was never just a good girl.

I was also rebellious. Passionate. Deeply curious about the edges of life — the places polite society tells women not to go.

For years, I had been living a double life: everything looking white-picket-fence perfect on the outside, while behind closed doors, I explored my shadows, my sexuality, and the parts of myself I had been told were too much.

And then, I met a man who gave me the courage to stop hiding.

After divorcing my “perfect” husband, I finally stopped trying to fit into someone else’s version of who I was supposed to be. I began embracing my allness—the messy, beautiful, untamed truth of who I was.

I let go of shame.
I let go of performing.

And I stepped into full ownership of my body, my desires, and my life.

I don’t coach women to be good girls.

I give them the key to the invisible cage they’ve been living in — so they can become the lionesses they were meant to be.

Rewilding My Soul

Nature has always been my refuge, but when my husband and I bought our Adirondack camp in 2014, I began seeing the world differently. The stillness, the wildness — it woke something up in me.

Shortly after, I took my first foraging class, and a new passion was born: identifying, using, and preserving the wisdom of plant and mushroom medicine.

I believe in ancestral knowing — a connection to the land, to nature’s intelligence, to the cycles that guide us all. I can feel it in my bones.

And in 2019, another unexpected door opened.

At my first Tony Robbins event, I was introduced to Master Stephen Co, a spiritual teacher and Pranic healer. That launched me into a journey of exploring energy work, a path that changed everything I thought I knew about transformation.

I believe in the quantum physics principle that:

Everything is energy.
And energy is all there is.

This has made me deeply passionate about integrating sound healing, energy healing, and meditation into my work.

When we learn to shift our energetic patterns — not just our thoughts, not just our actions — we become truly unlimited.

Reclaiming the Dark Feminine: Owning Desire, Power & Shadow

For years, I lived in two worlds. The "good girl" world — successful, polished, playing by the rules. And the hidden world — the one where I explored my desires, my wildness, my unspoken truth.

I used to believe I had to keep those parts of me separate. That embracing my shadow — the part that craved freedom, visibility, and authentic expression — would cost me everything.

But here’s what I know now: your shadow is your power.

The parts of you you were taught to suppress? The rage, the hunger, the unapologetic desire? They aren’t things to fear. They’re the key to your fullest expression.

Owning them is how you reclaim your sovereignty.

I identify as bisexual, ethically non-monogamous, and kinky — labels I once kept hidden but now embrace as a core part of my identity. My journey into sensuality, energy work, and shadow integration has transformed not just my life but the way I help women shatter the invisible cages they’ve been living in.

Because when you stop shrinking and shaming yourself… when you own your darkness as much as your light… you become unstoppable.

The Lioness Awakens

I don’t believe in quick fixes or surface-level change.

I believe in soul-level reclamation.

Through my Awaken Your Inner Lioness program and women-centered coaching, I help women break free from outdated stories, release shame, and fully embody their fierce, wise, untamed selves.

My work weaves together self-leadership, shadow integration, energy work, and the wisdom of the natural world. Because real transformation isn’t about doing more or fixing yourself.

It’s about falling in love with who you've always been.